The Overlooked Side of ADHD:
Inattentive Type and Its Impact on Children
Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is often associated with hyperactivity, such as a child who can’t sit still, blurts out answers, or fidgets constantly. However, there’s another type of ADHD that often goes unnoticed: inattentive ADHD. This type can be harder to identify, especially in children. Because of this, many parents only discover their own ADHD in adulthood after seeking help for their child’s diagnosis.
What Is Inattentive ADHD?
Inattentive ADHD is characterized by difficulties with focus, organization, and follow-through, rather than hyperactivity. Children with this type of ADHD might seem “spaced out,” forgetful, or disorganized. They’re more likely to be labeled as daydreamers or lazy rather than as disruptive, which can prevent them from receiving the support they need and harm their self-esteem.
Common symptoms include:
- Trouble sustaining attention on tasks or during lessons
- Frequent forgetfulness, such as forgetting homework or instructions
- Difficulty starting or completing tasks, especially in a timely manner
- Misplacing items like books, toys, or school supplies
- Struggling with organizing tasks or keeping track of schedules
Why Does Inattentive ADHD Go Undiagnosed in Children?
Unlike hyperactive symptoms, which are more noticeable, inattentive symptoms can be subtle. A child with inattentive ADHD may sit quietly in class, staring out the window, and this behavior can be mistaken for lack of interest or motivation. Teachers and caregivers might not flag these behaviors as problematic since they’re not disruptive.
Girls, in particular, are more likely to exhibit inattentive symptoms and are less likely to be evaluated for ADHD. This contributes to a significant number of children, especially girls going undiagnosed and unsupported.
The Impact on Children
Living with undiagnosed inattentive ADHD can affect a child’s academic performance, self-esteem, and relationships. They might struggle to keep up with their peers academically or feel frustrated by their inability to complete tasks. Over time, this can lead to feelings of personal inadequacy, anxiety, or even depression. Socially, they may struggle with friendships because of being forgetful or seeming disengaged.
How Parents Often Discover Their Own ADHD
As parents learn more about ADHD to support their child, they often recognize the same symptoms in themselves. This realization can be both enlightening and affirming. Behaviors they’ve long seen as personal failings, like disorganization or chronic lateness, start to make sense in the context of ADHD. This realization often fosters self-compassion, compassion and understanding for their child, and opens the door to adopting better coping strategies and seeking appropriate support.
Supporting a Child with Inattentive ADHD
Parents are often grateful to finally have answers and a roadmap to help their child with ADHD. ADHD is highly treatable with the right information and an accurate diagnosis. Many parents report feeling relieved as they see the successes their child achieves once diagnosed and once treatment strategies and supports are in place. If you suspect your child may have inattentive ADHD, here is what to do next:
- Observe the Symptoms: Pay attention to your child’s behaviors and struggles, both at home and at school. It is normal for symptoms to be different in different contexts. Talk to teachers to get a fuller picture of how your child manages in different settings.
- Consult a Professional: Reach out to us for support and/or for a neuropsychological evaluation. Early diagnosis is key to effective support.
- Create a Structured Environment: Children with inattentive ADHD benefit from clear routines, visual schedules, and consistent reminders to help them stay organized and focused.
- Advocate at School: Work with your child’s teachers to develop accommodations, coping skills, or support plans, such as extended time on assignments or seating arrangements that minimize distractions. If you need extra help in this area, contact us for our educational advocate.
- Celebrate Strengths: Many children with ADHD have incredible creativity, empathy, energy, and unique problem-solving skills. Highlight their strengths to build confidence! Many, many professionals thrive in adulthood because of their ADHD strengths!
